Although we should put away childish things, some adults still conform to methods of untruth. Needless to say, sometimes this involves fractional truth: 1/3 + 1/3 + 1/3 = 1.
Fractional truth involves different sects of people that have partial knowledge: 1/3 is aware of one aspect; another 1/3 of people are aware of another segment of information and another 1/3 is aware of yet an additional segment of information. All managed by one individual controlling information with a fraction of the truth to different sects of people. The “one” controlling is the “one” in all parts. Each group has a fraction of the story, but the “one” knows its entirety. The lower number is that particular group; of course, that number can change. Now, it maybe that while engaging with one particular sect, it was truth, but when the person moves to another sect, then another truth arises. Truth becomes a “moment in time” instead of fact. The moment of truth occurs when the individual engages you, but then the truth shifts to the next sect or group; so the truth becomes a moving target.
During this season, the reality that individuals will reveal what they want you to know or have determined what you need to know is stinging. This is a lifestyle that requires constant reevaluation, and tracking of what sect of people knows what. However, some have mastered this into a scientific method without error because it becomes a part of their nature. Once you have mastered masking, the recourse of conviction is undoubtedly lost. It is evident because a person continues to compartmentalize and categorize sects of people in their lives. Hopeful resolve and deliverance is only achieved when all sects are communicating and the “one” is unaware.
Individuals that tend to engage in fractional truth tend to be internally desperate for attention and significance. They tend to lead lonely, unfulfilled lives. Therefore, they create control to pretend to have influence over others. This system is corrupted and creates casualties because relationships are damaged, trust is lacking, and unethical behaviors are astronomical. The only possible means of complete deliverance comes when all sects collaborate and converse. At that point of contact, the “one” becomes accountable for the deeds done through confrontation.
Individuals that have active lifestyles of fractional truth and active sects tend to have psychological or mental issues that require professional help as well as spiritual deliverance. This is a deliberate, yet tragic manipulation of compassion, care and concern of others instituted by “the one.” So . . . how many fractional groups do you belong to?
In wrapping up the series on development, being teachable is a sensitive subject for many people. The mere idea of being described as non-teachable can be offensive and insulting to a person that protects their accomplishments. It poses a false, non-existent challenge in their minds regarding their success, endurance and achievements. The immediate reaction is to defend your position – posturing oneself as oppositional to the truth. In my earlier blog, I referenced my own situation in which I did not seek an understanding, but in response of being noted as non-teachable, I immediately defended my intentions and accomplishments. My behavior exemplified insecurities and using my accomplishments as a crutch in confrontation. What???? Yes, I used my accomplishments as a crutch in confrontation thus I was non-teachable. It was a great way of graciously displaying “I know it all” without saying it all.
How do you know if you are non-teachable? Some of the symptoms: despising correction, explaining when correction is given; pretending to accept correction with “yes sir,” and “yes ma’am” but secretly resenting the truth or conversing secretly with those viewed as allies of your understanding. Never implementing the principles taught, limited to no application of the principles given, collection of notes without application and never asking questions about the information or guidance given – “taking it all in.” Sometimes I brace myself for the opening defense: “With all due respect” which most often lend to “I do not agree.”
When you are teachable, there is healthy dialogue, follow up, muse moments and initiation of discussions. Most importantly, there is internal conviction and activation of the information received. One that is teachable has a hearty appetite to learn and live in principles of success. But most of all, you realize the cost of the teaching. The cost is high because you have to abandoned old ways of thinking, living and believing. The teachable ones are focused and determined, not unstable and wavering. The feedback is firm and forward. Teachable is huge – most can comprehend information, but can you apply and live the principles?
Development has so many dynamics and this can go on and on forever, but I have shared a few key elements that will hopefully spark your quest for the journey of purpose. Before undertaking any development opportunity or becoming an understudy, self-assess your status: Are you teachable? How do you know? I have provided you with a list of the “Un-teachable symptoms” to answer truthfully:
- You are paranoid of someone’s intentions to insult or degrade you. not ready
- You feel entitled to express your opinions if you disagree with correction. not ready
- You require certain styles of feedback and certain parts of your life are off limits for feedback, inquiry or correction. not ready
- You have certain elements of life you are still working through and prefer to keep those private and not open for discussion or correction. not ready
- You want the purpose, gift or ministry element without personal accountability. not ready
- You feel overlooked and want someone to provide that opportunity. not ready
- Experiences from past mentors, leaders or officials have left a mark of resentment of being used, underdeveloped or “held back” or just not “used” in ministry. not ready
- You have no previous experience of decision-making in any venue of purpose. not ready
- You have no experience or limited experience with cutting-edge leaders. definitely not ready
- You have not really settled in your identity. not ready
If you have one or more of these symptoms, you are not ready for development and are probably not teachable. These 10 points are markers that require submission to someone in authority. This is not the job of the developer, teacher or mentor. When someone of authority provides instruction, or direction and your point is “I see what your are saying;” “I will think about it;” “I will get back to you” or “Where is this coming from?” All phrases lead to damage. Deal with the internal elements before wrecking development. If you engage someone of authority, you will lay blame for failure and your past life, looking to them to fix you instead of developing you.