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The Holiday: As-Is Relationships


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Holiday shopping can lead to lots of great sales and not so great bargains! I remember years ago when our children desired a very expensive gaming system that we could not afford during the holiday season. In venturing for other toy items, I noticed a deeply discounted system for sale in ‘as-is’ condition. Visually, it appeared to be fine. We immediately purchased with excitement and anticipation of our kids’ surprise. The next day, the item was completely inoperable and we could not return since I convinced my husband to buy in ‘as-is’ condition. To say the least, we had to purchase a brand new gaming system. Staring at their little sad faces was just completely unbearable.

Upfront, this appeared to be a great bargain and savings, but it led to more cost and heartache. . . after all, it was a quick, unplanned decision. Just as with our purchase, some relationships are the same, especially if a person struggles with loneliness during the holidays. We compromise the cost and convince ourselves of what we can handle and manage only to have grave disappointment and pain. Not all individuals are created equal; as-is involves acquiring risk not always visible to the naked eye and the cost can lead to broken hearts and bankrupt dreams. Take a second consideration for as-is relationships; most of the time, you are low in self-esteem, high in loneliness and willing to take a discount without warranty. It is better to have set standards, perform due diligence and quality checks. There is no return, exchange, or in-store credit for as-is relationships.

Tasting Goodness . . .

There are many holiday traditions. When I was growing up, my mom would bake, bake and bake lots of cakes during the Christmas season. I thought the cake batter was so yummy. When I saw several sticks of butter on the counter to soften, I knew it was cake time! I would peek in the kitchen periodically to see if my mom started making the cake batter. Once I heard the mixer, I would tell her to call me when the batter was ready. Why? Because I was going to lick the mixing bowl! Without fail, my name would ring clear when my mom finished mixing the ingredients into batter and poured it into the pan. The leftovers were mine to enjoy . . . but simply, it was just the leftovers.

As I grew older, I lost interest in the batter. I decided to wait until the process was complete, the cake cooled and ready to serve. . .

Sometimes, we settle for a taste of goodness. The batter was the beginning of goodness, but the process of the cake rising took time . . . why spoil it?  I settled for the cake batter, which was part of the preparation, not even close to completion. It does not taste the same because the good ingredients did not rise to completion. Just like the batter, tasting the promises of the Lord is not the same savor in our spiritual pallets as consuming the fullness of the reward. Wait. . .wait until goodness is ready and savor the reward of the Lord. There is simply no comparison between the flavors. Did you give it a chance, or just wanted to indulge in what you wanted? Sometimes I ate too many bowls and earned a tummy ache . . . too much of something not ready is not good.

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