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Holiday shopping can lead to lots of great sales and not so great bargains! I remember years ago when our children desired a very expensive gaming system that we could not afford during the holiday season. In venturing for other toy items, I noticed a deeply discounted system for sale in ‘as-is’ condition. Visually, it appeared to be fine. We immediately purchased with excitement and anticipation of our kids’ surprise. The next day, the item was completely inoperable and we could not return since I convinced my husband to buy in ‘as-is’ condition. To say the least, we had to purchase a brand new gaming system. Staring at their little sad faces was just completely unbearable.

Upfront, this appeared to be a great bargain and savings, but it led to more cost and heartache. . . after all, it was a quick, unplanned decision. Just as with our purchase, some relationships are the same, especially if a person struggles with loneliness during the holidays. We compromise the cost and convince ourselves of what we can handle and manage only to have grave disappointment and pain. Not all individuals are created equal; as-is involves acquiring risk not always visible to the naked eye and the cost can lead to broken hearts and bankrupt dreams. Take a second consideration for as-is relationships; most of the time, you are low in self-esteem, high in loneliness and willing to take a discount without warranty. It is better to have set standards, perform due diligence and quality checks. There is no return, exchange, or in-store credit for as-is relationships.