It’s been a couple of weeks, but I hope you enjoy this blog segment. My husband and I embarked upon a challenge that was set out by the 17 to 20-something small group of our church. This fall, the focus is dealing with our “face” to others and social media “face” with kingdom impact. We have been married for almost 21 years and have been friends for 26 years. We were discussing the “face” of our lives on Facebook and other social media venues and the perceptions often given to others. Not all, but some individuals would rather live a life of online fantasy and login faithfully for the experience everyday. Others refuse to logout and remain online to sooth their reality.

We agreed to change our relationship status on Facebook for 3 days as a live-research and assess the responses and reactions of individuals. We were apprehensive about the perception of family, friends and pastoral connections; but, nevertheless, we went forward with the plan. We changed our status at midnight and instantly, my husband received an inbox from another pastor offering prayer. There were a few likes, but lots of “views.” Some comments were made but not many. We sensed questions and concerns as though there was an “eerie” silent concern. After 3 days, we updated our status and posted on our timelines the live-research. There were some comments, but interestingly, some individuals knew us well enough to know we were up to something and would never post our personal challenges on social media.

Our points were proven that individuals “buy-in” to stat-postings and comments. Social media is the Dear Abby of technology; the new frequency for gossip. Hence, some individuals remain logged in for the latest. Some people use Facebook, Instagram, and other mediums as psychological therapy to empty their mind and share their struggles; literally living in the media. Individuals use Facebook as “fakebook fantasy” until the bottom of life falls out and the true tragedy is unveiled. Fake accounts that are established to watch others and view pictures have destroyed marriages, families, friendships and hope. Inbox messages with hidden agendas and secret passions have poisoned people. It would be completely remiss of me not to mention “stat-attack.” What is a stat-attack? My formalized definition of stat-attack: This stat-virus consists of a public post on one’s timeline, which is strategically placed, often with scriptures referring to the wicked and God’s revenge for a person or people in which one is too fearful to reconcile or resolve. Postings cannot replace people or the responsibility to reason together.

Living in “fakebook fantasy” builds a toxic mentality in which the only remedy is God’s deliverance. Creating a world of fantasy, happiness and joy is a recipe for exposure and humiliation. Social media can be positive and powerful, but the power can be ruthless or righteous. . . learn to live a life of truth and express that to others in your sphere of influence. Postings carry the lace of power, but can lack truth. Live a life of transparency without trash. Stat-attacks will turn as we reap what we sow. Although you may never mention a name or tag an individual, the intent of the heart is clear in the sight of God. “… for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh. . . media is your mouth (Luke 6:45, KJV). ~Logout to Live