Phase two of the exit deals with ‘woe is me.’  What do I mean? As I stated in phase one, an individual can become quite skilled in admitting wrongdoings; after all, no one is perfect, right? It is the perfect escape from responsibility of any negligence. It serves as a temporary cure to a long-term illness of denial.

The woe phase enters your mind. How does it gain access? By crossing over the bridge of blame. Sometimes it is easier to connect the dots of why things happen in reflective stages by blaming others.  Woe comes to party at your place . . . the mind. Woe begins to comfort you and provide you creative options. Woe pretends to “cure the cause.” Woe uses your space and time to party with its friends: blame and denial. Woe is able to take over the emotional state of an individual. Rumors begin to circulate and now everyone knows you are the host of the woe party. Roll out the red carpet for those that need no introduction: fear, anxiety, paranoia, doubt, and desperation (just to name a few). Woe opens your life to a world of worry.

Sometimes in our process of reflection or review of our decisions, relationships and mistakes, we stay too long and open the door for woe. Do not allow reflection to transform into stagnation. Move towards the exit before woe finds an entrance.